Hello, I’m Calum.

I support sensitive peace-seekers who wish to explore their inner world with respectful, inquisitive loving kindness.

You too may be a part of the LGBTQIA+ community or just feel safer with someone, like me, who is part of that community.

Maybe you sense that there are parts of yourself that have not felt welcome in the world at large and you wish for a nurturing place to grow.

You need a safe, non-judgemental, open-minded space to get to know yourself better.

It may be that you were taught to feel deep shame because of your gender experience or sexual preferences and you seek liberation from the weight of these feelings and their resulting expressions in your life.

You may have trouble asserting yourself, setting boundaries or (heaven forbid!) allowing some space for your anger but also know that there is energy in this that is inhibited and needs space to breathe.

Many of my clients would describe themselves as being on the introverted side, quiet, shy, sensitive and can relate to the descriptions of highly sensitive person or empath and may feel they have lower self-esteem.

I am here to support you.

Get to know my work

I am a good fit for clients who want to go to the deeper places, who need an expert who supports them finding their own answers that are tailor made to their lives and personalities and don’t just want someone to tell them exactly what to do.

I have focused my efforts in recent years on accumulating the skills and knowledge to be supportive for my community including the Internal Family Systems model (IFS).

I invite you to take a good look at my website and the themes that are close to my heart.

Your resilient, flexible human psyche has a remarkable capacity for change. New pathways can open when we cultivate a curious and warm-hearted space together.

Feel free to get in touch even if just to ask a question. I am happy to help.

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Articles

“I’m Not an Angry Person”

Many of my clients have sat in my office and told me “I’m Not an Angry Person”. For my sensitive, introverted clients with lower self‑esteem, the idea of feeling—even worse showing—anger feels like a nerve-wracking ordeal to be avoided at all costs. In reality, though, it is very difficult to avoid ever feeling angry since…

The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man’s World by Alan Downs

Inspiration for Therapy Work: Alan Downs’ Book “The Velvet Rage” Seen as a Bible for understanding the hurts and challenges of growing up gay, Alan Downs’s, “The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man’s World”, is a deeply insightful and useful book for many of us in the LGBTQIA+…

How a handbag can hurt: gay jokes and their disastrous consequences

Picture the scene: At a recent concert, one member of our group, a man in his 60’s, was trying to find his seat in the row in front of us as he clutched a small bag. The bag had been given to everyone by the organiser of the concert as a free promotional gift. One…

My Mission for the LGBTQIA+ Community

As a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, one of my deepest wishes is to use the skills I’ve learned and honed over my career to promote the health and well-being of others like me. As human beings we all have a need to be seen, listened to and understood by other human beings. We yearn…

“Through therapy, I’ve reached a state in which I am able to live my gender identity and sexuality in a way that feels right to me”

“I felt truly accepted with care and kindness. It meant a great deal to me that Calum didn’t treat me like some strange object of study, but rather as someone in the same boat as part of the queer community”

“I am really surprised how the right words to the right receptive ears/situation can really spark a lot of action; none of it was cheesy bullshit, the ideas and tools worked and weren’t predisposed to outdated thinking which i’d experienced in the past”